How many times have you agreed to do something that really did not want to do? For someone at work? Your friends? Even your spouse? All I had to do was say no, but the word never came out. So you end up doing? And later resent. A coaching client told me that he agreed with the things he did not want to do, but for some reason, felt compelled to do them. Instead of taking the enjoyment in the task, later her feel angry and resentful toward the person she had told esiu a. Then he went with a list of reasons why I wanted to say no. I stopped saying, “You are even justify to me!” We feel that we have to justify ourselves and give good reason to say no. Although the reason is simply: “I do not want.” Check-in with yourself. I asked my client what was one thing he could do to work on this.
She suggested they start to check with her before saying yes or not. You may wonder, “Is this right for me?” Count on doing what is right and feels good with you. And if there is something for you, try to express that. Have Fun With It! Saying no does not have to be serious or angry. My client also wanted to lighten up, so you are encouraged to try stirring a little, to have fun with it. You can try different answers like, “No, never in my life” or “care for your baby – Are you crazy?” What are some other great answers you can try to say no more fun? Make a list.
I suggested to my customers in the areas and people in your life, where there were more problems than not. I told her what I was doing with that list. Where have trouble saying no? Is it perhaps time to have some honest conversations with people? Try this: “This is what I’ve been doing. I have said yes when I wanted to say no. I’m starting to feel resentful and do not want to feel that way. I do not want to offend you, and I have to start listening to myself. “At least have a heads-up that things can be a little different from now one. Y – helps you make an internal change. Dar step. So what’s the worst that could happen to say no? You may lose some people in your life that are used to doing what you want. Keith Oringer has much to offer in this field. To live an authentic life can seem difficult. Sometimes there will be unintended consequences. And I say: Bring on the consequences! In the end, it worthwhile. David Wood is a personal and business coach, and original founder of the International Academy of Coaching – a global technical training school. seeks to become a life coach? Get your free copy of “50 Power Questions for use with your life coaching clients, and to take charge of their own lives.
How many times have you heard say, "I have so many balls in the air, I do not know how I can keep track of them all." We might manage to keep the balls in motion, but how good our performance is really juggle? Are our movements controlled and rhythmic? Or are we merely gritting his teeth and hoping to catch the ball next before falling on the floor? I was recently talking with a colleague (we'll call Craig), which is a great achievement-oriented and well-regarded senior management. He was overwhelmed by the amount was on your plate. In addition to handling high-pressure career that had begun to pursue a bachelor's degree while he was enrolled in another certificate program. In addition, several projects in the home were also competing for your attention. Amid all this, Craig said he hoped to continue to stick with the graduate degree, despite the workload was more than he had expected. To do otherwise would be to persevere so out of character that was inconceivable to him. In the words of Craig, "would resign." As we talked, I asked Craig if he could have a more positive way of looking at options before him. Instead of seeing the decision not to do something like giving up? How could the decision be re-framed as choosing to meet other important goals? Such a decision can mean the election of the successful completion of a few key objectives, rather than fight to keep all the balls in motion.